(I won’t be tagging this with anything other than ‘trigger warning’, because I don’t need any troll flack about abortion clogging up my blog. Please do not read any further if you are triggered by abortion or related issues. Thank you.)
I could use a signal boost on this, because I’m a bit out of my depth and it’s important.
An acquaintance of mine recently found out that she is pregnant. She already has three beautiful sons, and is a doting mommy.
However, her relationship with her boyfriend (the father of this baby) has been rocky for a while, and she thinks it has ended in a serious way this week. So, she cannot, in good conscience, bring another baby into this world, into her life, without having the steady support her spouse could have offered. She does not have the means to support another child, and refuses to make her three sons struggle more than what they already may have because of a fixed income and a large family.
She has decided to get an abortion, and has asked me to help her deal with this on a spiritual level.
I’m obviously honoured by the fact that she has trusted me with this, but I worry that I don’t have the experience needed to help her properly. What she said to me is “I want it to know that I love it, and that I am thrilled it chose me as a mommy, but I cannot support it the way it deserves. I want it to be free to leave, and I want it to be happy and healthy with someone else. When I do this, I want it to just be a bunch of cells; I don’t want to be killing my baby.”
Obviously that’s a really difficult request. I don’t think it’s entirely possible, but she’s just worrying about hurting its soul and trying to make this as pain free as possible for both of them. However, she is realistic enough to know that we might not be able to do this in a ‘perfect’ way.
She asked me to help her because she knows that I have worked with Hekate; she remembered my saying that she was associated with midwives, and with the underworld and spirits.
Is there anyone with experience with this sort of thing; spiritual healing, or ritual for an unborn child? Are there resources that I can look into somewhere? Do you have any advice? Time is a factor here, because she doesn’t want to wait too long. I don’t have all the details yet, but the faster I can help her (or guide her to someone else) the better.
Thank you to everyone. Asks, Anon, and messages are always on. Reblogs are fine as well.
I’ll leave a question mark here so people can reply, maybe?
EDIT: “Just wanted to clarify; I am not looking to abort the baby with magic. I am looking to help her deal with the spiritual aspect of the abortion. Thanks everyone.”
Edited by request for the addition and clarification.